“Never get married!”
He says this because, for whatever reason, he is constantly wrapped up in phone battles with his wife. Instead of just laughing at his marital anguish, I asked him, “Why not?”
He said, after some contemplation, “You just never truly see the person until you open your eyes, and sometimes that’s too late.” Now, I know he loves his wife and kids very much, and he said that out of pure frustration, but it did get me to thinking….
If I really opened my eyes to the men I date, what would I see?
Now, in hindsight, I can see what clear losers they have been. Not all in terrible “watch me bash my ex’s” ways, but losers non-the-less. This one had no ambition, that one constantly referred to himself as White Trash, this one thought the pun “camel-toe casino” (instead of camel rock casino) was the most ingenious thing he ever said.
Granted it was these things that made me finally dump the losers, but what about those few months I wasted my time and thought I was in heaven?? The, now embarrassing, times I thought "could this be the one?"
Well, I think I may be over self-inflicted humiliation! …at least this form… my pants getting caught in my car door will probably happen again whether I want it to or not….
Debi always tells me “You never know a person until they show you who they are.” Which is true - to an extent. I mean, I’m sure neither she nor my father were always perfect to one another. Everyone makes mistakes and cant be a great person all the time. Hell, I am not a great person all the time (quit nodding your head in agreement)!
So what should I look for in a man whom I am just starting to date? What are the GOOD traits (I know, speaking the same language, or at least understand each others, MIGHT be a plus - thanks…)?
More to come....what are your thoughts?
He says this because, for whatever reason, he is constantly wrapped up in phone battles with his wife. Instead of just laughing at his marital anguish, I asked him, “Why not?”
He said, after some contemplation, “You just never truly see the person until you open your eyes, and sometimes that’s too late.” Now, I know he loves his wife and kids very much, and he said that out of pure frustration, but it did get me to thinking….
If I really opened my eyes to the men I date, what would I see?
Now, in hindsight, I can see what clear losers they have been. Not all in terrible “watch me bash my ex’s” ways, but losers non-the-less. This one had no ambition, that one constantly referred to himself as White Trash, this one thought the pun “camel-toe casino” (instead of camel rock casino) was the most ingenious thing he ever said.
Granted it was these things that made me finally dump the losers, but what about those few months I wasted my time and thought I was in heaven?? The, now embarrassing, times I thought "could this be the one?"
Well, I think I may be over self-inflicted humiliation! …at least this form… my pants getting caught in my car door will probably happen again whether I want it to or not….
Debi always tells me “You never know a person until they show you who they are.” Which is true - to an extent. I mean, I’m sure neither she nor my father were always perfect to one another. Everyone makes mistakes and cant be a great person all the time. Hell, I am not a great person all the time (quit nodding your head in agreement)!
So what should I look for in a man whom I am just starting to date? What are the GOOD traits (I know, speaking the same language, or at least understand each others, MIGHT be a plus - thanks…)?
More to come....what are your thoughts?
2 comments:
Another thing I think is-when someone shows you who they are-believe them..
What? Your dad & I are not perfect??:)
Look for someone who has the same qualities as your dad and you have the prize..Caring, commmunicative, handsome, giving, great cook, etc..willing to work through issues.There will be issues..
Dr. Phil said yesterday people that are attracted to you are because of how you really feel about yourself deep inside..foood for thought..
Hey Heather-I tagged you!
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